Category: Elderhood

The Door Is Wide Open – But Don’t Let The Old Man In

“Facing the fact of our own mortality is something we fall into intimacy with as we enter the elder years of our embodied life.

What is dignified aging? ….”

Letting Go of the End of the Rope

“We were standing in a circle all blindfolded. This was the beginning exercise of the ropes course that some of my “sole proprietor” business women friends and I had signed up for when I lived in Sonoma County, in Northern California.

If you have never done a ropes course it is quite an adventure and a test of courage, balance, trust, discovery, team support…..and willingness to let go and try something that you may never have done before (and may not ever do again!).

Granted this was decades ago I did this, but my body still remembers the experience. More about the standing in the circle blind folded in a moment…..”

Aging Priorities

“No matter what your gender is these words by Judi Dench remind me what is important as I age….and what is definitely not. What a remarkable face she has, as does the man below.

I would imagine that the stories these elders will tell you and the wisdom they share is worth the price of admission. Admission to elderhood and the remarkable and at times challenging journey of aging.

I decided in an instant today to really look at my aging face in the mirror….. like a lover would gaze at their beloved. …..”

Attention Is The Beginning of Devotion

“If asked what my first thoughts are as I awake each morning this is what I say. Gratitude for waking up and feeling the breath fill my body, and in the Spring how much I love the sweet sound of birdsong outside my bedroom window. After preparing green jasmine tea my writing notebook finds its place on my lap with fountain pen poised as I gaze out at the River Birch outside my bedroom window. The question posed each and every morning is “where will I place my attention today?”….

Just Be It

“They were walking slowly with poles in hand, the husband watching that his wife negotiated the hill before her. Seeing their slow and somewhat shaky pace on a very narrow trail I cut across the grassy slope, which was much steeper, so that I could be ahead of them and went on my way leaving them behind.

A bit later they were heading towards me on the trail and I was able to see more clearly the shirt that the woman wore which said in big bold letters “JUST DO IT!”…..

Over 70 – Elderhood In Action!

“Over a year of filming across the globe to tell 18 stories of people over 70. Why? Because there are lives that can inspire our own. Watch “Stories of A Generation with Pope Francis.”

DAY 31: Joy In Life

“I am filled with gratitude as I write this last post in the “31- Days of Joy and Laughter Project” and concurrently complete a 6-day self directed personal retreat to end the year. As all of these posts came from trusting the unfolding in each day – not planned agenda – today’s post reflects that magical synchronicity that constantly fills my life to over flowing.”

DAY 27: Enough Is A “Precious” Feast

“Three years ago I visited my home town of San Diego, California in the beach area of Ocean Beach/Point Loma where I was born, raised and brought three sons into the world – with the purpose of spending time with family still living there. It was like living my life backwards with so many memories arising as I walked my old haunts and the hard packed sand at the waters edge.  On one of these walks I reflected on my entry experience at the airport a day before….”

DAY 26: Acceptance With Compassion

“From a wider perspective, accepting life in all its pain, imperfection and beauty our stress and anxiety has the potential to shift us from expectations of how our life should be to acceptance of what is happening now. This creates a spaciousness for curiosity about what might happen next. Accepting the unfolding of life and embracing reality with gratitude. Being aware of the possibilities and opportunities that emerge. I consistently find this easier said than practiced in any given moment.”

DAY 24: A Bit of Light Magic

“Awe, wonder and a bit of dancing around, just like the young child close to us, as we walked into the Winter Lights show outdoors at the N. Carolina Arboretum. What pure magic awaited us as we walked through hundreds of displays in the gardens spontaneously singing with the music and certainly with smiles on our faces the entire time!”