The Artistry of Aging
A village without the elderly is like a well without water. Meaning: What water is to a well, elders are to a society.
African Proverb
Throughout most of my life the elders in my village were honored and respected. Without them the community would not have substance or grounding. Vision or wisdom. Rites of passage for the young, or awareness of the life beyond this one.
We were the chosen ones simply because we had traveled many paths to get to the most aged of years when all became clear and transparent….even beyond the veil of mystery shrouding the unexplainable.
Everyone knew we were the source and the resource. The best story tellers keeping everyone transfixed as we sat around the fire at night bathed by the stars and moonlight. The drumbeat and call of the panther our background music.

Because of this our communities thrived based on the wisdom we possessed that was followed, respected and treasured by all. Everyone knew that one day, if fortunate enough, they would also be an elder.
Our simple life depended on honoring and respecting the natural world surrounding us. We have always known we were made of earth, fire, water, wind and stars.
How could we not be for when we die we return to those same elements.
Then it all changed when a society different from our own thought they knew what was best for us and became too busy to care. We are the ancient ones who cannot be replaced by taking away our dignity.
We have a voice that can be heard throughout the cosmos based on eons of life upon this earth. We know who we are and are not afraid to stand tall and look you in the eyes. A gaze so intensely real that no one can look away.
What we tell you can only be transmitted if you are courageous enough to gaze back with your entire being.
What are you receiving now?

31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 08/02/24
Crossing over a threshold from one stage of life, or even in one single moment, can be disorienting. It may be a subtle transition over time or a sudden wake up call that you are now in Emerald City, like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, and nothing is really the same.
Once you decide to avoid your comfort zones and take off into unknown territory the next story of your life begins.
Not, “the net will appear”, but instead realizing all of a sudden there is NO NET to catch you or break your fall….you are attached to a bungee cord!

Instead you will spring back, not to where you started from but perhaps to see life from a new perspective. Minus the “knowing”, control, expectations and filters. You are given another opportunity.
Rather like the time I was hiking the old Hawaiian trail on the Napali coast where one wrong step taken in fear would have taken me over the cliff side to my death in the churning waves far below.
I certainly didn’t have a bungee cord or hiking ropes attached to me, but instead realized what was necessary was an absolute trust in my ability to cross the threshold, the narrow trail taking a 90-degree turn with wind blowing, into a different perspective of my life. Taken one step at a time.
Sound like your life these days? Once we cross over a threshold of sorts there is no way back to where we came from nor to whom we identified ourselves to be. That day on the trail transformed completely who I thought I was and the direction my life was to take.
Becoming and evolving as an elder in our present day culture is a little like jumping off of that bridge or hiking a narrow trail with nothing to hang onto. Thrill seekers aside, it just seems like there is one opportunity after another. What I would call thresholds.
How we navigate this new territory can be very revealing if we choose to bring awareness along for the ride. Not old patterns of thinking and being, but instead a sense of adventure, acceptance, and a vibrant curiosity especially in challenging circumstances.
The jumping off point, or the steps one takes over the threshold, bring you home. What is that?
My beloved friend who died suddenly at the beginning of 2023 said “we are all walking each other home”. Now that could mean until we leave our embodiment here, or into the self revelation of just how magnificent we are in our newly discovered wholeness and what we will do with that.
You choose…..
31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 08/01/24
~Henry David Thoreau
In June of 2020 I launched the WildlyFreeElder website and community in the midst of the pandemic. It was my way to reach out globally, to connect elders, and to hone my creative artistry.
The first launch post is below along with one of my very favorite Reflections of Life (previously Green Renaissance) short videos.
You can’t help but fall in love with Maureen and her enthusiasm for life with her red sports car, red hat, jazzy piano playing, and sense of humor! Enjoy!
The natural evolution of an embodied human is to change with each year we are here. Not just physically, but within the heart of our emotions and in the deepest energetic recesses of our mind, thinking and creative potential.
For some this is a very conscious process. An unfolding of acceptance, transparency, trust and surrender revealing our life path. Every year brings new opportunities and awareness.
Some accept the societal story and common narrative of aging, or impulsively seek the next “anti-aging” supplement or practice which denies what is a natural process for all living beings.
The continuum of birth to death reveals a pathway uniquely our own. No one else has our challenges, experiences, opportunities and possibilities.
For some this is a short spectrum and filled with challenges that can’t simply be overcome with facing them head on. Acceptance of disabilities, dis-ease and even death are at the forefront during these final embodied years.
Impermanence beckons us from everywhere. We see it in nature, our friends and loved ones, the animals special to us and at every turn of life. Everything ages and dies within the cycles and rhythms of life here on Earth.
What our unique path will be is simply a matter of perception and is revealed in our unfolding life moments. That we will transition in death at some point is inevitable.
Many of us have been blessed with more embodied life moments to dig deep and find our passions buried beneath complacency, fixed identities that do not honor the wild soul inside, and ungrounded fears. Free of the pressures and stresses of youth and mid-life we are invited into the stage of elderhood.
Elder saturated in the experiences, wisdom and innate sense of belonging, woven with an unrelenting sense of humor that surfaces in a multitude of moments during our days no matter what chronological age we are.
Being an Elder is not defined by age, but rather Elders are recognized because they have earned the respect of their community through wisdom and actions or their teachings; through the vibrancy that radiates out from their presence and the unique artistry that only they can bring into the world.
Let us return to acknowledging elders in the fullest sense of the powerful presence they can be and are becoming. Respecting the life artistry that has been necessary to bring them to where they are today.
As we ripen into our aging beauty may we be heard, seen and respected for what we have to offer. May we trust and respect our own becoming with grace, curiosity and surrender.…and a strong dose of humor!
The time is now to free yourself into the wildness of elderhood. To ground who you are and what you have to bring into the very center of your being in spite of the challenges, or better yet because of the challenges!
You have stories to tell, wisdom to share and artistry to impart.
Don’t die now….before you die!
31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/31/24
Salmon Creek Beach, N. California/Photography by Gaye Abbott
Here in the Blue Ridge Mountains I am taking care of a clients home, dog and kitty, nestled in the side of the mountain. It is peaceful, incredibly beautiful and a sanctuary for the soul. There was a rain lashing thunderstorm this morning which had the dog and kitty glued to me for the duration.
Afterwards we ventured out on a walk with the heady scent of earth and water soaked trees, plant life and flowers lingering in the air. Breathing with the earth moving through our feet and paws.

Lizzie and Reese
The video below was created and published during the pandemic when the only solace seemed to be nature. Even that was prohibited where I was living during the “lock-down” as the air was so polluted from wild fires that it was not healthy to even take a walk outside. Yes, I lived in Northern California at the time and the effects from the global pandemic linger still and probably will for years to come.
Let’s not forget the wild places….
The healing, soothing, and peace of mind that comes from being out in nature, in the wild, or even just in your garden. It is a primal feeling of coming back to who we are, to reconnect to the soul of our being and what we are made of. Returning to the rhythms of nature, the cycles of the seasons, the circles of life….
Filmed in South Africa by Reflections of Life
31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/30/24
Photography by Gaye Abbott
Well, I have hit the mid-way mark of 31 straight days of posts through Elder Muse….and I am still sitting here wondering what I will share today. I am indeed experiencing the “silence of a piece of paper that has been erased of all its words. “
But what possibility there. Freedom to be in the moment. A witness to what is evolving. Open for life to surprise and delight. Seeing the beauty of ordinary things.
If all of the words are erased from a piece of paper the content of what was there dissolves and a new story can then be created. The void that is yearning to be filled loses its seductive power to fill it before appreciating what is showing up moment to moment.
Gazing out at the rounded Blue Ridge Mountains, the sound of wind blowing through the trees, a flicker of movement attracts my attention to the right. And then the paper is no longer silent….

31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/29/24
South Yuba River, N. California/Photography by Gaye Abbott
These days it seems to many of us that the world has “gone crazy”. We can hear about what is happening in seconds from across the planet through news sources that are most often based on assumptions that are not grounded, appealing to our human need for “survival at any cost”, and cloaked in fear.
I have been thinking recently that maybe now we just have a different kind of “crazy” with all of the technological “advances” that translate to being instantly connected on so many different levels. A very stressful “flight or fight” crazy.
Before all of these innovations we more or less only knew what was happening in our own little part of the world or even village. If it directly adversely affected our daily living then it necessitated our paying attention and taking effective action. The entire planet’s woes were not in our face so to speak.
Trying to nip the “gone crazy” scenario in the bud I know that I can only be effective, remain centered and grounded, maintain well being, and be of service if I don’t buy into the constant barrage of news feeds, social media, television, and conversations based in fear and assumptions. I have choice as to how and from what sources I learn about the state of the world, my country and community.
Some guidance during these, what could be called, very stressful times is sincerely appreciated. Today this came to my attention and I am bringing it to yours. Wise practices to take to heart every day from a Martial Arts Master of how to move, express, and be present in our individual and collective lives…..

Be Water, My Friend:
The Teachings of Bruce Lee
-by Shannon Lee
Bruce Lee’s daughter, distills the wisdom and philosophy of the legendary martial artist into practical lessons for life.
Here are ten lessons from the book:
1. Embrace Flexibility: Like water, be adaptable and open to change. This allows you to navigate obstacles and find new paths to success.
2. Cultivate Inner Strength: Develop mental and emotional resilience to stay calm and focused in the face of challenges.
3. Live Authentically: Be true to yourself and your values. Authenticity leads to a more fulfilling and honest life.
4. Pursue Continuous Improvement: Always seek to grow and learn. Strive to be better today than you were yesterday.
5. Balance Hard and Soft: Recognize when to be assertive and when to be gentle. Balance strength with compassion and determination with patience.
6. Focus on the Present: Practice mindfulness and stay present in the moment. This enhances your awareness and effectiveness in everything you do.
7. Simplify Your Life: Eliminate unnecessary complexities. Focus on what truly matters and let go of distractions.
8. Embody Humility: Stay humble and open to learning from others. Recognize that there is always more to learn and experience.
9. Face Fear Courageously: Confront your fears and use them as opportunities for growth. Fear can be a powerful teacher if you let it.
10. Flow with Life’s Rhythms: Accept the natural ebb and flow of life. Embrace both the highs and lows, understanding that they are part of the journey.
These lessons encapsulate Bruce Lee’s philosophy of life, emphasizing flexibility, resilience, and continuous personal growth.

31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/28/24
“The very same interaction, the very same experience, can be either mundane or spiritual. The only difference between the two is how I live it.”
– Christiana Figueres

As a child I always felt I was the ocean, sand, shells, sun, seagulls and wind that held and comforted me as I played in the elements. In fact when I had a cold my parents would bundle me up and take me out to the beach right outside of our home in Mission Beach, San Diego. They would lift me over the beach wall and set me down in the sand for a couple of hours. Inevitably by the next day I no longer was sick.
I learned early on to be grateful for this natural world that I was not only a part of, but made of.
These days it is easy to move into despair. A grief so profound that the natural world we grew up in appears to be headed for extinction. This binds us all.
Yet, what would it be like to change the story, the conversation, we are all creating and having. That we agree we choose our future through our powerful mindsets and imaginations, co-creating together.
Holding climate change and the ecological crisis we are currently facing as an evolutionary catalyst by changing the narrative through our effective actions and daily mindful presence. Shifting the beauty we perceive from mundane to a sensually alive experience, and the scarcity and despair to regenerative abundance.
Perhaps this is a spiritual evolution the natural world is calling us to asking humans to pay attention to the way we meet what is unfolding – in all domains – and how we meet it. Changing the story….
“If you have wondered how to keep hope alive amidst a thousand reasons to despair, if you are ready to take your despair as fuel — intrigued by the idea of stepping into love and immediate realities of abundance and regeneration — this conversation is for you.”
31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/26/24
“The sky had absorbed the sun’s heat and released its stars. A full moon spilled light on our path.”
~From “The Mountains Sing by Nguyen Phan Que Mai

I sometimes wonder if it isn’t the inner critic – we all have one – that is the saboteur of a peaceful and passionately creative existence….and the perpetrator of discontent.
Could it be that the core cause of the challenges and woes humans face today stems from a lack of self love, acceptance and the unwillingness to let go?
The ordinary beauty of Loving and being kind to oneself – surely it is enough for those of us who live privileged lives.
“Enough for me is Being in this moment, a calm and peacefulness inside that is enough.”
~Catherine Brennon
Yet we either become too serious about life’s meaning completely forgetting to let go into the inhale and exhale of the moments, the pleasure and beauty….or we live our lives in survival mode in fear of the inevitable death that will find us someday, claiming our superiority over others including nature, and giving power to the inner critic.
Deep, strong, moving – letting go is being in the river or even in the middle of a turbulent thunder storm – that flow of life that is ours if we are so fortunate. Letting it all be….
“In the quiet corners of our minds, there’s a voice that tends to undermine and sow doubt – the inner critic. The negative one. The one who preys on our insecurities. Confirms our self doubts and attacks our confidence. It might sound like, ‘you should’, ‘why didn’t you?’, or ‘what’s wrong with you?’
Recognizing this internal dialogue is important because it so often shapes our actions and decisions. When we’re too hard on ourselves, it messes with our confidence and blocks our creativity.
It’s essential to name it, acknowledge its influence, and most importantly, not let it take the reins of our lives. Instead of allowing self-doubt to dictate our choices, we should strive to foster self-acceptance. By doing so, we empower ourselves to break free from the grip of the inner critic and embrace our authenticity.
Embracing our imperfections and celebrating our unique qualities empowers us to step into the fullness of who we are meant to be. And it brings with it a profound sense of inner peace, enabling us to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and grace.”
Filmed in Hermanus, South Africa by “Reflections of Life”, Exploring the Infinite Beauty of Being Human
Featuring Catherine Brennon
Below is the full poem Catherine Brennon reads part of in the video.

by Safire Rose
She let go.
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear.
She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.
Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice.
She didn’t read a book on how to let go.
She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.
She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go.
She didn’t journal about it.
She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.
She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.
She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.
She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.
She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.
She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.
She didn’t call the prayer line.
She didn’t utter one word.
She just let go.
No one was around when it happened.
There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her.
No one noticed a thing.
Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort.
There was no struggle.
It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.
It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A small smile came over her face.
A light breeze blew through her.
And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…
©2003 “She Let Go” is not currently available for licensing or republishing
31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/25/24
Blue Ridge Mountains, N. Carolina/Photography by Gaye Abbott
Being nature based since I was a small child I innately feel at home when I am surrounded by nature continually seeking out those sanctuaries to live, work and play in.
For the first half of my life it was living very close to the ocean and beaches. Now in the elder years I live in a gorgeous tree and wildlife filled temperate rain forest area in the Blue Ridge Mountains with plenty of water. Yet know that it is as fragile an ecosystem as any these days with the unbalanced and out of harmony choices humans are making globally and economically.
In a time when it might feel as if we can have very little positive impact on the plight that is facing us ecologically and environmentally we can actually make a difference through what we eat on a daily basis.
A year ago now I created an experiment to eat all plant based on three factors. First of all the trigger – I was tired of listening to myself say “I could never be vegan” (translated to “I could never give up cheese!”) I have learned over the years to never say never to myself as this science and earth based woman will turn right around and challenge herself. Besides I found cashew cheese to be amazing!
In addition to that challenge my blood pressure had risen, a blood test showed high cholesterol and LDL (bad fat), and I had gained a few more pounds than I would like. Though I have a completely organic diet and was 80% plant based anyway I decided to go cold turkey (no pun intended) and dive into eating 100% plant based eliminating dairy, eggs, a very small amount of occasional chicken, turkey and weekly fish.
Having a science and integrative health background this experiment was structured strictly vegan – no cheating – for six months. During that time, inspired by the Food Revolution Network, I found I loved exploring, cooking and eating all of the delicious vegan recipes , lost 20 pounds without any effort, and there even was a 20 point decrease in both LDL and cholesterol. Best of all I had more energy for life!
Beyond the health benefits of a plant based diet I became even more aware that the diet choices I made each day would affect not only my body and well being, but that of our planet’s sustainability and collective choices. A even deeper compassion for animals emerged as well.
I invite you to watch the film “Eating For Tomorrow” by clicking on the link below. It has many heart breaking scenes and science based facts in it, much I knew but did not know the full extent of. It is an environmental film about solutions and has won a great deal of recognition. Please pass it on if you are so moved to do so!
Keep in mind as you watch that there are powerful positive efforts being taken by many, including indigenous communities in many countries, on behalf of our planet that was not shown in this film.
Most importantly keep in your heart and mind that we have the power to leave a sustainable planet for generations to come simply through our dietary choices!

31 days of Daily Elder Muse blog posts accessed from the unfolding of the day – not planned or scheduled. Yes, the Muse is back again during this powerful and challenging shift time on our planet. May these words, stories and images assist you to remember who you are….and how you can be of service.
I have no idea what will arise…..but then do we really know ahead of time what our moment to moment daily experience will be? We are only asked to pay attention and attend with open artistry. ~Gaye Abbott
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Gaye Abbott, Wildly Free Elder, 07/24/24